Jealousy in Your Marriage and How to Put it Right

Hello, I have been married just over a year. We had an arranged married. However we did fall in love prior to our marriage. We decided to live with out in laws and being Indian my husband did ask me if this was okay to do so for a short period of time (with no specific time limit of course). At first we were very happy together and the inlaws were also fine. I settled into the routine of the family fairly quickly. After A few months my husbands mother would have episodes of arguements over t domesticated issues which I found quite disturbing at first. She slowly begun to control what I can and can't do, she expected certain things to be done on certain days which I wasn't aware of for example, not washing hair on some days and wearing specific colours on certain days etc. Also to the point she would tell me what to wear on specific occasions. My parents were not allowed to visit me and would have to make arrangements in advance for them to come and visit me, often my mother in law would say to my mum she hasn't given enough notice. My visits to my family were also condensed, I also stopped going out with my friends so that I do not want to feel resentful towards me. I am an educated independent woman and my husband knew who he marrying but he never told me about the restrictions in his house prior to our marriage. Thearguement continued to go on from time to time over where we were going and who with. I was told off for going going to see my parents and requested to be home for 6pm? I am 34 years of age by the way. I tried to speak to my mother in law amicably with my husband and it turned out that they fell out resulting in my husband having a breakdown. Since then, we have been ignored for several months by both mother in law and and father in law. We tried to dad to my father in law to help reconcile with my mother in law but he didn't get involved. Since then I have been isolated and my husband would not allow me to talk to anyone about this. I tried several time to to talk to my husband how this was affecting us. He was upset too but said thighs will settle. We sent away for our anniversary and a week later, I asked my husband if I could go back home for a few days. At first he was in agreement, then when it came to me wanting to go and see my family, he started to act just like his mother, aggressive and manipulative. I could no longer stand for this and demanded that I needed space i wanted to go home. I then noticed how they all started to communicate with other again and he took the house keys off me. I felt disheartened by what he had done to me. I went home that's evening. A few days later my parents and extended family were involved. We tried to address the issues as a family together. Everything seemed OK however my in laws were annoyed by the fact that I involved my family. I just wanted the best for us and for things to be sorted. My mother in law had issues over me going out to work and coming home late in the evenin